YOU DESERVE TO FEEL GOOD – and the world wants you there ASAP!
I’ll explain…
What makes your day get better? Or conversely, what keeps you from having a good day? I know there are a variety of responses to that, but I would bet that a very common one for both would be the people you encounter.
The other day I spilled my cup of coffee right next to my laptop and phone. Fortunately, the cup tipped away from the electronics, it didn’t break and it had been mostly empty, but still, expletives ensued….because my mind wasn’t on those pluses. Instead, it was on the fact that I had been on a roll, about to finish up something I’d been working on for the past hour, and now I had to stop to clean up the floor, the chair, my shoes, my legs…
I am really good with finding the positive (sometimes humorous) reset – I help my clients with that all the time – but everyone has their moments!
My son who happened to be in the room said, “Well, at least coffee isn’t sticky.” And that’s all it took to bring my grouchy thought train to a halt. It wasn’t so much his point about the coffee – I had sweetened soy milk in mine, so it was a bit sticky – but that his simple comment prompted me to notice the upsides, like my spared electronics and the fact that the floor needed some cleaning anyway. 🙃 I felt better! And moreover, I was able to take a call soon after without bringing my sour attitude to the next person.
HERE’S MY POINT: Our attitudes and emotions – our energy – impacts the people around us. When we are in a better place, it makes it easier for the people around us to be there too, just like my son did for me, and it spreads out from there.
It’s the ripple effect.
And on the grand scale, it means…
If we want to live in a better WORLD, we need to do OUR INDIVIDUAL PART by doing what we can to keep ourselves on an even keel, or at least to get back there sooner rather than later, even when life is throwing us curve balls. (Think globally, act REALLY locally – yourself! 🙂)
You know a session with me can help with that. 😉 But to get the ball rolling here and now…
One key way to get yourself into a better space on a more consistent basis is to SPEND MORE TIME WITH PEOPLE THAT BRING YOU UP and less with those that bring you down.
Here is a list of people you may or may not think of when you consider “the people in your life”:
✔️Yourself! (If your own thoughts tear you down, I can help!)
✔️Your personal circle of family, friends, and coworkers
✔️People in any group or organization you’re involved with whether as a student, participant, volunteer…
✔️Workers as well as other customers/clients that you encounter as you run errands and take care of personal business, both in person and virtual (including email and texts)
✔️Media – via traditional news sources (print, tv, audio) and certainly, via any social media platform
✔️Entertainment…including authors you read, what you watch on tv, anyone at the places you go for fun…
All of these people have an impact on your mood and energy. We usually notice the ones who put a smile on our faces, but the negative impact can be more subtle. So, WATCH for CLUES, like:
🧩Your mood drops
🧩You find yourself getting riled up with impatience, indignation or anger…maybe feeling mean-spirited
🧩Your thoughts are turning negative or you are suddenly revisiting an unpleasant memory (side note – that memory arising is an invitation for your own growth, but revisit that at another time)
🧩You feel drained or just “off” in some way
When any of that happens, it’s time to shift the interaction…
💡Walk away (literally or figuratively)…with media, this means turn it off or put it away
💡Redirect the focus of the interaction to a neutral topic, at least temporarily
💡Take a moment to reset (Ask me about “30-second reset” techniques to prepare yourself! 🙂)
💡Make a plan to continue at a later time when you can start fresh
And for a permanent shift…
💕Let go of the relationship when its time. For example, I don’t watch really violent movies anymore or read news articles that are written with a fear-based perspective (Think of all the articles that say something like, “So-and-so COULD do ____”. ) And you most likely instinctively avoid shops and restaurants that don’t have an uplifting atmosphere.
While letting go of certain people deserves far more guidance than a newsletter blurb, know that if you are feeling the need for distance, then staying with them is most likely hindering their personal growth as much as it is yours. I don’t say that lightly. Among other things, your depleted energy won’t be a true source of lift for them. And remember that separating creates space (and motivation) for others to enter their life and yours.
💕Last, consider how you can bring more uplifting people into your life. Hint, it has to do with shifting your attitudes and actions more than anything else. You know I can help. 😉
ON BEHALF OF THE WORLD, THANK YOU FOR YOUR EFFORT! 💗🥰
